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Court Journal
Deanna created this journal to help moms keep track of situations that
happen. The questions of who, what, when, where, why, and how are
all answered. There is an outcomes section and a note page. Deanna
uses this journal when situations occur. She then used the information
to write her motions or she uses the information to write a report and
then e-mail to others in the community regarding the situation.
Court Journal
Deanna created this journal to help moms keep track of situations that
happen. The questions of who, what, when, where, why, and how are
all answered. There is an outcomes section and a note page. Deanna
uses this journal when situations occur. She then used the information
to write her motions or she uses the information to write a report and
then e-mail to others in the community regarding the situation.
Court Journal
Family Court Workbook
Deanna created this workbook so moms can represent themselves in court.
Deanna has represented herself in Family Court for over 11 years. When she
got divorced and rid of her "lying attorney," she created a template on her
computer and figure out how to file and serve the motion. In January 2011
she filed two 40 page briefs in the Court of Appeals. Read her briefs.
Family Court Workbook
Deanna created this workbook so moms can represent themselves in court.
Deanna has represented herself in Family Court for over 11 years. When she
got divorced and rid of her "lying attorney," she created a template on her
computer and figure out how to file and serve the motion. In January 2011
she filed two 40 page briefs in the Court of Appeals. Read her briefs.
Family Court Workbook
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Battered Mothers Fight Courts
The first shock a protective mother must overcome is the reality that the justice system does not exist within
the family court system. On television, in our classrooms, and in the news, the myth that our legal system is
fair and just is promulgated. Many protective mothers discover that the truth is that the rules which apply in
a criminal court or in business related civil cases are not applied in family courts. Rules of evidence and
consequences for challenging the status quo are harsh and unpredictable. Judges have unilateral
discretion to define what happens, how it happens and whether she is even allowed to tell anyone else
about the court’s orders.
Images
A protective mother stripped of her children, is also stripped of her right to parent; her right of free speech;
her right of protection; and her right to protest these injustices. Our Bill of Rights is frequently ignored, and
the judicial system affords immunity for the legal participants including Judges, Child Custody Evaluators,
Child Protective Services, and Law Enforcement Agencies. If they misjudge, and the battered mother or her
children die, then no one is accountable. Do you risk contempt of a court order in an attempt to protect your
children?
Battered Mothers Fight Child Abuse
Often the abuser begins to deliberately alienate the protective mother from her children, telling the children
that she abandoned them, did not want to mother them, lies about his abuse, or fails to parent them
effectively. The child begins to doubt their own ability to perceive reality. They may feel a forced sense of
loyalty to their abuser. If the children do not follow his lead and mistreat their mother, what are the physical
and emotional consequences they suffer at the hands of the abusers?
Bancroft advises protective mothers and their support systems to remember that the purpose of the fight is
to keep as close to your children as possible. Keep things calm, remind them that you love them. Rather
than debate which parent is “right” in a never ending battle for the right to exist without the abuser’s
influence – ask your child, “What do YOU think?” Maintain the child’s ability to read the situation, assess it
and come to an independent conclusion. When the abuser misrepresents a mother’s feelings or actions,
correct the lie, and encourage the child to rely on their own personal experience with their mother.
Battered Mothers Fight Isolation
Many Americans erroneously believe family court dynamics are identical to other courts’ standard of
evidence in the United States. Therefore they come to the conclusion that a mother who loses custody in
civil proceedings must have done something to deserve the loss. The stigma of losing one’s child is an
isolating experience. The battered mother finds the experience so painful that she abandons any attempt to
explain what happened to her.
To overcome the stigma, the battered mother may attend conferences like the annual Battered Mother’s
Custody Conference; join Facebook Causes; and support websites related to healing from and fighting
domestic violence; connect with other people with like experiences; and research what is happening in other
parts of the country. Books like those published by authors Lundy Bancroft, Mo Therese Hannah, Barry
Goldstein, Amy Neuman, Michael Lesher, Wendy Murphy, Karin Huffer and others can provide specific
legal, emotional and political strategies to effect change.
Battered Mothers Fight Human Rights Injustices
Political initiatives are reflected in the progress of landmark legal cases in human rights; follow the outcome
of cases such as Jessica Ruth Gonzales v. USA, as well as other international cases concerning domestic
violence under consideration by the Inter America Human Rights Commission. The U. S. Supreme Court
upheld the Castle Rock, Colorado Police Department’s refusal to enforce a protective order against Simon
Gonzales that resulted in the murder of their three children. Gonzales (now Lanahan) is protesting the
violation of her human rights.
As the first U. S. Citizen to receive political asylum from The Netherlands, Holly Collins and her three
children fled the United States in 1994 to be free of domestic violence when they could not obtain protection
from family courts. Ms. Collins plans to return to live in the U. S., just as her youngest child reaches
adulthood. How our country responds to the knowledge that a mother was forced to flee her own country for
protection will be an important barometer of progress.
The first shock a protective mother must overcome is the reality that the justice system does not exist within
the family court system. On television, in our classrooms, and in the news, the myth that our legal system is
fair and just is promulgated. Many protective mothers discover that the truth is that the rules which apply in
a criminal court or in business related civil cases are not applied in family courts. Rules of evidence and
consequences for challenging the status quo are harsh and unpredictable. Judges have unilateral
discretion to define what happens, how it happens and whether she is even allowed to tell anyone else
about the court’s orders.
Images
A protective mother stripped of her children, is also stripped of her right to parent; her right of free speech;
her right of protection; and her right to protest these injustices. Our Bill of Rights is frequently ignored, and
the judicial system affords immunity for the legal participants including Judges, Child Custody Evaluators,
Child Protective Services, and Law Enforcement Agencies. If they misjudge, and the battered mother or her
children die, then no one is accountable. Do you risk contempt of a court order in an attempt to protect your
children?
Battered Mothers Fight Child Abuse
Often the abuser begins to deliberately alienate the protective mother from her children, telling the children
that she abandoned them, did not want to mother them, lies about his abuse, or fails to parent them
effectively. The child begins to doubt their own ability to perceive reality. They may feel a forced sense of
loyalty to their abuser. If the children do not follow his lead and mistreat their mother, what are the physical
and emotional consequences they suffer at the hands of the abusers?
Bancroft advises protective mothers and their support systems to remember that the purpose of the fight is
to keep as close to your children as possible. Keep things calm, remind them that you love them. Rather
than debate which parent is “right” in a never ending battle for the right to exist without the abuser’s
influence – ask your child, “What do YOU think?” Maintain the child’s ability to read the situation, assess it
and come to an independent conclusion. When the abuser misrepresents a mother’s feelings or actions,
correct the lie, and encourage the child to rely on their own personal experience with their mother.
Battered Mothers Fight Isolation
Many Americans erroneously believe family court dynamics are identical to other courts’ standard of
evidence in the United States. Therefore they come to the conclusion that a mother who loses custody in
civil proceedings must have done something to deserve the loss. The stigma of losing one’s child is an
isolating experience. The battered mother finds the experience so painful that she abandons any attempt to
explain what happened to her.
To overcome the stigma, the battered mother may attend conferences like the annual Battered Mother’s
Custody Conference; join Facebook Causes; and support websites related to healing from and fighting
domestic violence; connect with other people with like experiences; and research what is happening in other
parts of the country. Books like those published by authors Lundy Bancroft, Mo Therese Hannah, Barry
Goldstein, Amy Neuman, Michael Lesher, Wendy Murphy, Karin Huffer and others can provide specific
legal, emotional and political strategies to effect change.
Battered Mothers Fight Human Rights Injustices
Political initiatives are reflected in the progress of landmark legal cases in human rights; follow the outcome
of cases such as Jessica Ruth Gonzales v. USA, as well as other international cases concerning domestic
violence under consideration by the Inter America Human Rights Commission. The U. S. Supreme Court
upheld the Castle Rock, Colorado Police Department’s refusal to enforce a protective order against Simon
Gonzales that resulted in the murder of their three children. Gonzales (now Lanahan) is protesting the
violation of her human rights.
As the first U. S. Citizen to receive political asylum from The Netherlands, Holly Collins and her three
children fled the United States in 1994 to be free of domestic violence when they could not obtain protection
from family courts. Ms. Collins plans to return to live in the U. S., just as her youngest child reaches
adulthood. How our country responds to the knowledge that a mother was forced to flee her own country for
protection will be an important barometer of progress.
For more information call 1-800-706-4951
Non Custodial Parent Children's Book
Non custodial parents can keep track of
their children's information at the "other
parents home." This book is the key to
keeping you in contact with your children
and people they interact with.
Non Custodial Parent Children's Book
Non custodial parents can keep track of
their children's information at the "other
parents home." This book is the key to
keeping you in contact with your children
and people they interact with.
Non Custodial Parent Children's Book
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